Earlier this year, I regained contact with a friend I hadn’t spoken to in over 10 years. We had known each other very well in High School and maintained a friendship into our 20’s. For the most part, our friendship was one of great closeness and support, though with both of us having a strong competitive side, we definitely got into a few blowouts! Jordana and I also partied together … a lot. At times it reached the point that it seemed that’s all we did. We could be so good for each other, yet also completely dangerous for each other. Eventually, we intentionally parted ways to try to move on to a better life. We were holding each other back as our comfort with each other was also crippling. With just a look, we knew what the other wanted, and neither could say no to the other.
Jordana went on to law school, and I went off and got married and settled into the suburbs. We both left the party life behind and managed to start reaching for our dreams. It was my oldest daughter Monika who found Jordana on Instagram, @jordanagoldlist, and told me she was doing really well and was involved in helping within the community. Myself being a bit of a philanthropist, I was curious right away. I always knew Jordana was a great human, she just struggled with addiction as I had in the past. I did a little research and checked out her IG and her website jhgcriminallaw.com and saw that she was doing some volunteer work and public speaking. I thought, “Wow, we are living two very different lives, but it looks like we have a lot in common.” I decided to take a chance and reach out. Once we connected again, our friendship blossomed very quickly. Catching up on the last 10-15 years took a bit of time, and now it’s as if we were never apart.
Now, Jordana is doing a lot of great outreach work; helping to lift people up, and working with and encouraging disadvantaged youth. She is also a very talented speaker; her voice and words are an absolute pleasure to listen to, and I highly recommend heading to her website so that you can view one of her guest appearances on various podcasts.
I was listening to one last week, and my jaw dropped on something she said. It was a total “Ah-ha” moment. Jordana told the story of meeting a girl who had severe depression and was having trouble just getting out of bed. The girl told Jordana that she had too much baggage, and it was holding her down. Jordana brilliantly responded with, “that’s your problem. You’re looking at your past troubles as baggage. What if you looked at it as your personal Tool Box instead?” The idea is that anyone who experiences and survives great trauma in their life has an advantage in being able to overcome very difficult situations. A lot of skills that victims acquire to endure the mental battle of abuse are skills that can also be used for success. For example, something Jordana and I have spoken of regarding our own skill sets is risk. To survive the streets, we were both involved in a lot of risky behaviour; we learned to turn risk to our advantage now that we no longer need it to survive. She took a lot of risks in starting her own practice, and it has paid off 10-fold through her success, income, and self accomplishment. I have used risk to make big decisions in Real Estate, where most wouldn’t, and this has helped set our family up for financial freedom.
Dig in and turn those undesirable behaviours you once had, into ones that that will help you make all of your dreams come true. Your greatest weaknesses can be your greatest strengths.
Turning your personal baggage into a Tool Box to draw from, is going to help set you up for success. Dig in and turn those undesirable behaviours you once had, into ones that that will help you make all of your dreams come true. Your greatest weaknesses can be your greatest strengths. I hope this insight helps you tap into your own True Power.